AOK Today #7 - Connect authentically

AOK Today: Reach out and authentically connect with someone

"I'm surprised insurance companies don't mandate that you need spend more time with friends. It wouldn't be a bad idea" - Eric Barker

How It Works: Genuinely invest in an important relationship today - just one person, just one conversation (preferably face to face, otherwise on Facetime or speaking over the phone)! Don't worry if it's been a while. Dr Cacioppo explains that connection isn't about the number of contacts, or the frequency of contact but the quality of those interactions. Loneliness isn't about proximity (we've all felt lonely in a crowd), and lonely people don't spend any less time with others than non-lonely people do. In fact, while loneliness is harmful for you, solitude can protect against loneliness. Here is the difference: loneliness is how you feel about your relationships. If you feel bad about your relationships and you're alone, that's loneliness and that can be detrimental. If you feel good about your relationships and you have time alone, that's solitude and that can be protective. Investing in a connection is important. Some researchers believe our relationships are second only to our genetics when considering our wellbeing (including physical aspects like cardiovascular and endocrine health). While we can't simply control genetics, we can simply control and invest in our relationships.

Cost: Absolutely Free! While the cost of NOT doing it is great ;)

Why I love it: I have to be honest and share that I naturally do not love this one. I often find socialising effortful and prefer time alone. Having said that, research has shown that introverts tend to significantly overestimate the potential negative emotions and outcomes associated with an impending social situation. I would add, I consistently underestimate the positive emotions and outcomes. Sometimes I feel fullest after an authentic conversation with a friend. I will add that having a genuine interaction with a stranger has been shown to be surprisingly fulfilling and wellbeing boosting too, so if you're struggling to find someone, start here.

Happy Giving |XOX|